Saturday, December 4, 2010

Live Better Tip

Be grateful. Taking the time to reflect on the wonderful aspects of your life and being grateful positively affects physical health.

Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Living in the Past with Old Time Radio | Apartment Therapy Chicago

I was having a conversqation with Honey this weekend about listening to old time raido. He thinks I'm a lame. But he loves :) I can remeber growing up and my dad used to listen to a local station that played a lot of old time radio and newer recordings. I thought he was lame. Then he got us XM radio about 4 years ago, and I was hooked. I had never listened to so much talk radio and pre-recorded programming. When my XM radio went out on me I wen tot the library and started renting stories and books on tape. I was sold. My girls (8 and 2) love the comedies. I'm more of a mystery suspense kind of girl. As the article below mentions you can download a lot of old time radio programs from itunes for FREE, along with podcast, and lots of lectures from top universities. Enjoy!! Candace Living in the Past with Old Time Radio Apartment Therapy Chicago

Saturday, October 30, 2010


I was able to get up this morning and make a few batches of body butter this morning. Hopefully I can get them posted to etsy today.
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Monday, October 25, 2010

Love is like sunshine. It brings a golden glow to its beholder's face and a warm feeling all over the body. It awakens souls and opens eyes. And when it's over, it leaves billions of small memories called stars. To remind the world, that it still exists.

Friday, October 22, 2010

Foundations For A Healthy Marriage Relationship, Part 3-Intimacy ad Final Thoughts

Intimacy is key in a marriage relationship. Intimacy is not just about having a satisfying sexual experience with your spouse. Intimacy in a marriage is also about a deeper friendship, companionship, spiritual meaning, fun, passion, parenting, and connection with mutual core values (Markman, Stanley, & Blumberg, 2001). Intimacy really capitalizes on the good stuff about being in a relationship. This source also goes on to illustrate how men and women convey intimacy differently. The key here is to communicate what one is expecting from their spouse.

Women seek intimacy in the form of verbal communication. They want to talk about their day, their plans, their dreams, and their wants. After expressing all of the above, they in turn expect for the husband to feel a need to reciprocate, and be just as enthusiastic about it. Men on the other hand define having intimate moments when they are sharing activities that they enjoy with their spouse. As part of their commitment to one another, couples should invest the time and conversations necessary to facilitate these needs. Assuming what your partner likes and perceives as intimacy based on their gender and past is not wise and can be detrimental.

It is hard to deny that commitment, communication, and intimacy are foundational basics to a healthy marriage relationship. These three functions overlap, resurface, and play their own individual roles in a marriage. Couples committed to being together “for better or for worse”, through thick and thin, with the necessary legwork are buying into a happier and healthier future. With their attention to commitment, couples will thrive on their communication skills, where they will not only bond with each other, but, be able to learn their partners as they further mature, and be able to work through rough situations, while bringing them to a higher level of intimacy.

Monday, October 18, 2010

Foundations For A Healthy Marriage Relationship, Part 2-Communication

This is my final for my most recent class. I will be posting it in 3 sections, this is part 2 of 3. I'm posting this here on my blog as this is the type of work and counseling I would really like to move into. I really enjoyed the class, the material, and putting this paper together. I hope that you enjoy it a much as I and Beaux did. Let me know your thoughts.
Foundations For A Healthy Marriage Relationship, Part 2-Communication

Lack of communication is one of the primary reasons marriages fail. It is necessary that couples learn to communicate and listen to one another effectively. Communication of all the foundational skills is of most importance. There will be times in a marriage when spouses cannot help one another. There will always be times when all you can do for someone you love is listen. There will be times when all someone can give to you is a hug. It is estimated that when awake, we spend approximately 70% our time communicating, 30% of which is talking (The Reavive, 2009). This means that over half of our communication is non-verbal. It’s not what we say to our partners; it’s how we say it that can be the cause of communication problems. When communication between partners becomes strained or nonexistent, the entire foundation of the relationship is affected. Learning to communicate so that everyone involved feels heard is hard work and as a result so not being committed for the long haul, many couples are do not reach this level of understanding and issues become unresolved. Tension deepens leading to a lack of understanding and respect. In the end, this may lead to couples dissolving the relationship for lack of know how. While this temporarily resolves their problems, the same problem is bound to resurface in the next relationship. If one does not have a healthy way of expressing their thoughts and emotions to another, then everything else will ultimately crumble. Communicating effectively is a skill that can be learned.

There are 3 goals, in my opinion, partners should start out with and keep in mind when communicating. First, as part of their commitment to one another, partners should be honest with one another. If we want something, we need to say it. It sounds obvious, but how many hurt and angry couples end the relationship over, "he should have known..." or "she should have realized..."? How would he have known? How would she have realized? Did you tell him/her? Being able to express oneself in the small areas will lead the way to open and comfortable discussion in the bigger areas as well. Second, do not rely on intuition. It is a common assumption that prophetic power is proof of your spouse's undying love and devotion (Braverman, 2000). Let's destroy this myth right now. Tell your partner what it is that you want. His or her thoughtful response to your plainly expressed needs is a sign of their commitment. Third, and most importantly, listen to your partner. Sometimes, we are so caught up in hearing our has consumed us that we don’t realize that we haven't really been listening. If we would stop to listen, we would discover that our positions are not that far apart, and at times are not apart at all. By just listening, partners will be surprised by how much they learn and realize the pleasure of being able to express themselves freely.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

You Again - Trailer

Went to see this with my co-workers last week. Good, girls night flick, full of laughs. Great stress relief.

Foundations For A Healthy Marriage Relationship, Part 1-Commitment

This is my final for my most recent class. I will be posting it in 3 sections. I'm posting this here on my blog as this is the type of work and counseling I would really like to move into. I really enjoyed the class, the material, and putting this paper together. I hope that you enjoy it a much as I and Beaux did. Let me know your thoughts.
Foundations of a Healthy Marriage Relationship-Commitment
by Candace C

The most important part of any marriage is a good foundation. A relationship like many other things is on shaky ground, without a foundation. A marriage relationship is not any different, in the sense that, in order to have a healthy marriage a foundation has to be laid. A foundation of constant nurturing in commitment to one another and the bigger picture. Nurturing of communication between partners. And nurturing of the intimacy in the relationship.

Commitment to one another is a much more broader function than the world tends to teach us when it comes to marriage. At first thought, commitment is being loyal to one another in a monogamous relationship. At a second glance we are taught that being committed is being supportive, understanding and open to our partners. Dr. Robin Smith points out in her book, Lies at The Altar that commitment goes so far beyond these two points. Commitment begins with the realization of self and being committed enough in your marriage to not lose yourself. Realizing that a marriage is a union of love between two unique individuals. Partners need to honestly ask if they are in love with their partner as they are now or do you love them for who you can pray, nag, or manipulate them into being.

Being committed also means understanding that you as a partner are no longer living by yourself; you're now living in a two-fold lifestyle (Lamb, 2009). Patience becomes a necessary emotion for a marriage to survive. There will be hundreds of situations every day that test the marriage. Tempers can soar, things will be said and will be remembered for a lifetime. A little patience goes a long way, and in some cases can save a marriage from collapse. Along with patience come gratitude. Gratitude is another emotion that's also needed for a good marriage. A spouses is not a slaves, they're a partners in life. If your spouse does something for you should take the time to let them know that the effort is appreciated. It's nice to feel appreciated for something that you've done.

In summary, commitment is the legwork of the mairrage. Marriage is not fifty-fifty. A strong marriage foundation is built when both partners put 100% into making their spouses happy, being in it for the long haul. This means that each partner needs to agree to not fight destructively, to commit oneself to keeping the funand friend ship in the relationship, and to make the relationship a safe emotional harbor (Markman, Stanley, & Blumberg, 2001). If "both" partners do this the marriage is sure to last. Treat your spouse better than you expect to be treated, and your marriage will blossom into a beautiful flower.

Monday, September 27, 2010

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Thursday, September 16, 2010


Beautiful by Candace Cne

My thoughts of you are like morning dew on flowers...
My thoughts of you are like a rainbow at a waterfall...
My thoughts of you are like a full moon
against a cloudy night sky...
No matter what wonders my eyes have seen,
Nothing compares to what I feel when I with you,
My love for you is beautiful.

Thursday, September 9, 2010

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

Wish List Wednesday

This is an addition from my 8 year old. Yes she really asked her granfather and I both for a bottle. What am I going to do with her? She does have great taste.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

Late Blooming

I've decided late in the season to start a container garden in my kitchen. Dual purpose decor, and eats!!! Haven't discussed with beau. Par tof the joy of a long distance thing. But he does think I'm country!!! And that I can be, a lot of days.
So the motivation was a recent trip to a friend of mines outdoor container garden and a trip to Old Time Pottery with my dad. I found some vases very similar to the one pictured on the left.
I plan to grow: sage, mint, chives, small onions, cherry tomatoes, and what ever else i think will not take up too much space or out grow my containers quickly.
I'll keep you all posted. Here's a video I watched on Youtube.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

YouTube GOLD!!!

I found one of my favorite craft shows on youtube!!! Crafters Coast to Coast
Sorry.... Back to my regular blogging. LOL!! Great shows for inspiration, or figuring out "how do i do that"?

Thursday, August 19, 2010

What are you drinking.....

Still doing some reading on tap water. EWG's Drinking Water Quality Analysis and Tap Water Database | Environmental Working Group
Since 2004, testing by water utilities has found 315 pollutants in the tap water Americans drink, according to an Environmental Working Group (EWG) drinking water quality analysis of almost 20 million records obtained from state water officials.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Ghirardelli Chocolate Pairings

Ghirardelli Chocolate

12 Noon to Midnight: A Non-Alcoholic Wine Substitute | Apartment Therapy The Kitchn

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Wish List Wednesday

Henri Bendel Centennial Stripe Cocktail Ring

Featuring a classic emerald-cut stone in Bendel’s iconic brown and white stripes.

200 POST!!!!!

So I hit 200 post and didn't realize it....Whoops! Between work, homework, and 2 kids can you blame a girl. Thanks to all of my faithful readers, followers (I pray you all are still with me and abundantly blessed). Thanks to those who just happen to stumble by, I luv you all for reading. And to show my appreciation I am giving away 2 goodies..... Leave a comment to enter for a chance to win......
I luv you for reading

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

What are you doing for you? (What makes YOU happy?)

So, beaux was in town last weekend. And we had the most enjoyable conversations, I've had with he opposite sex in a very long time. Our conversations always are a bit different. But, this one in particular will be one that I remember and cherish. First it spanned a few days. Second it was all about me and what makes me happy. If I'm really happy with where I am in life or am I really just keeping my self so busy that I'm missing something. This is one of the reasons that I'm extremely attracted to him....He "seems" to really have a genuine concern for my happiness and my goals present and future. Any who, when he asked me what really made me happy, I didn't know how to answer that question. I froze for a minute. He followed up with telling me what made him happy. But I still had no answer. I told him that so long as my girlies were happy, and he enjoyed himself when he comes to town....I'm good. He reminded me that good isn't happy, so once again what makes me happy? I turned away, in my head I'm thinking wow, I've spent some time thinking about this in moths past but not recently. Do I really have no answer.... Wednesday morning....I'm at the courthouse...Reading....All The Joy You Can Stand. The author starts out in the same place...My mind goes WOW. Apparently I need to re-evaluate this part of my life. Not only did my reason for being at the courthouse remind me of what 2 years in an unhealthy relationship can do to a girls world, but it grieved me to realize how much of myself I had really lost. And since the conversation mentioned above I had been asked again by my Best Friend. For years I was told that I was looking for happiness in the wrong places, and I just never understood what exactly it was people were saying to me. Over the last year I began to understand...But recently I've gathered a whole different idea of my happiness. It's really ok that its the simplest things. Its great to make time for these things, but if I have to steal time for them it's just fine. It will pay off at the end of the day. So, yesterday I left work (during lunch) and went and got a massage. It's some thing that I LOVE to do, but have made every excuse not to for years. It was wonderful, the lady was a bit heavy handed, but I needed it. Last night I layed in the floor and let Kamara climb all over me and laughed until she just got slap happy with it. That made the both of us happy. I've gotten back to some of my hobbies, but balancing them in between homework and girlies is not easy. I'm still planing a vacation... Until then, I'm going to enjoy my daily walks downtown, cooking, the privilege of education, all the kisses I can get, quiet time with the girlies and him. So what makes you happy?

Friday, June 18, 2010

A quote for the day

Everything you now do is something you have chosen to do. Some people don't want to believe that. But if you're over age twenty-one, your life is what you're making of it. To change your life, you need to change your priorities.- John C. Maxwell

Tuesday, June 15, 2010

A roller set I can Live with

On another you tube browse found this interesting. Will be trying soon.

How to Wear Summer Hats

How to Wear Summer Hats via AOL Stylist
  • Getting Started: "... we just haven't been exposed to how many different types of headwear there actually are out there. The wearer needs to be comfortable in a hat first, before a hat will look good on them."
  • Trying Them On: "If you put it on and it doesn't feel like you, take it off," Albanese says. "I say bring a friend and reflect on your own style.
  • The Hat That Looks Good On Everyone: "The look that works universally is the classic straw fedora," Albanese says. "It's like the training wheels of hats."
  • Budget-Friendly: "There's really no crazy need to go and splurge on a hat, because you can go to Urban Outfitters or Forever 21 and buy a hat for $9 to $15," Albanese says.
  • Head Size Matters: "If you have a big head, you will most likely look good in most hat types because your head will fill them and frame your face properly, it just depends on your style," Chan says. "If you have a smaller-sized head, leaning towards styles such as flat caps and driver/ivy caps help frame the face better. The shape of your face also has a lot to do with the outlook of the hat, so the best bet is to try on various styles to determine what type fits your head and face best."
  • Taking it off: "If you're in a swanky restaurant, you shouldn't be wearing a hat," Albanese says. "I'm very traditional in that respect. I would say most places it's OK to leave your hat on, but definitely not at formal or cocktail attire type places."
  • Hat Head: "Full curls (with a hat) is a little too done," Albanese says. "I love natural -- a ponytail or a bun in the back with a few pieces coming down in the front. If (your hair is) going to be curly, keep it natural – no ringlets, nothing crazy. A hat's such an easy, cool accessory."
  • The Hottest Hat: "Fedora or ivy cap," Chan says. "Dress it up or down. Hats are personality pieces and are expressions of your individuality and personal style."

Sunday, June 6, 2010

I know I said I wanted to be single

I know I said that I wanted to be single. I’ve kept myself single this far, I can keep it up. I have so much to work on. I just feel like I could be a better partner, helpmate, whatever you wanna call it; if I correct some of my ways of old. Completely responsible of me right? However, I also led myself to believe that no one should want me in my current state. Not healthy either. A year ago I wanted to be as far away from love as possible. I even said that I didn’t want to date until I was done with my Masters (mind you I transferred no credits and just began year 2, and I’m still talkin PhD!). Well, since then I’ve managed to continue my education, get into yet another comfortable spot in my job, re-establish a home for my children and myself. I’ve also managed to stumble upon someone who seems way too good to be true. The person that I have always said I wanted, but felt I never deserved until now. I even prayed to God that 1 you keep my heart, because I’m give way to much of it, and 2 if you send him I’ll know because he’ll fit the list in a way that nobody ever has. Well….Now I find myself toying with the idea of…. Well….. I don’t know what to call it or say. But now I have found myself growing some feelings for him and thinking about him often, all too often. We met in a uncanny kind of way. And have taken things rather slowly. In the mist of rehabbing my life, he was there. I used his text and phone calls to give me the sense that someone was there caring, cheering me on, understanding the transformation that was and still am a work in progress. Only thing about was he really started to care, and so did I. I really felt initially as I if I had just met friend, to see through the hard times. Then I slowly began to feel something for this man who was beside me in my heart and mind. We spoke in the early hours of morning, after work, a few words before bed here and there. The time turned into days, and weeks, months. I really like this man. He makes my heart sing in the oddest ways. I don’t know if it’s because I know he suits me well, or if it because I know I’m his exception. But I have some much of me to work on… I don’t know what to do. Do I just feel what I feel and let things flow. Do I add him to my to do list? LOL!!! Or do I really appreciate the friendship, and companionship that he’s giving me and figure out where he really goes in all of this life of mine?

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Friday, June 4, 2010

So much for that

I planned on coming home and really doing some writing today. And of course, things did not go as planned. But I did find a new template that I like so much better than the others I've tried out. I do have something to share. I will be posting soon. "He's" Shocked I haven't wrote about him yet..... I was determined to stay single for a year, with roughly 2 months to go.... i think I'll make it.

Sunday, May 2, 2010

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Wednesday, April 21, 2010

I Say.... Candid Advice

Tyrone says...... I gots 4 women needin bortions but i only got cash to get 3?I gots 4 women needin bortions but i only got cash to get 3. how do i pick the one who keeps the baby? i dont wanna be no daddy but i got no cash. 2 are black and 2 are mexican, can't get me no white p-ssy lol. should i keep the sexiest one or try for sumthin else? I Say.... Whoa! What the cuss? You really should've thought this out.... And you definitely need to try something else. First keep what you givin out, it's not a good look when it's on such a grand scheme. Let's try using that money to start buying diapers and formula! If you were man enough to lay down, you should be man enough to handle that, Bruah!!! I'm be praying for you all.....(Lowers head, close eyes...."Lawd help dem!!")

Clever Thought

The weathers changing and we're all trying to eat better. So, there's more fresh fruit around the house. And with more fresh fruit there's bound to be Fruit Flies. Say goodbyes with this simple tip:
To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass, fill it 1/2' with Apple Cider Vinegar and 2 drops of dish washing liquid; mix well. You will find those flies drawn to the cup and gone forever!

I Say..... Candid Advice

Yaya ask..... Is it okay for him to say this?Me and my boyfriend have been going out for a few months now, and we love each other and all. But he threatens to break up with me almost daily, and I don't know if that's normal or not. What am I supposed to do? What does this mean? I Say.... First off it’s not normal to make threats daily, even if the threat is to break up. He may think that so long as you believe that he can walk away at any time and it will upset you; he has you in the position to do anything he says. It’s a control issue. He’s toying with you. Love yourself enough to leave and find someone who really cares. Candace

Organix Shampoo and Conditioner- Product Review

I have found a shampoo that I really love!! I've found shampoos in the past that I really liked, but see the deal breaker for me is when it does go over well on my 7 year olds hair. This one is "family friendly"!! i purchased a Giant Eagle for $5.99 each and have used it on my last 5 washes. I love the smell, I love the way it feels in the lather and on my hair.

Now, I haven't tried using the conditioner as a leave in yet. But I do plan on "twirling" my hair with it this weekend. So I'll have to let you know who that goes. I also noticed on the website that they have styling mousse, whip, and an anti frizz serum. Didn't see those at my location, but I'll be on the look out for them the whip. the website makes it sound LOVELY!!!

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Expression (Outfit of the day)

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